Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Secret Daughter

I just read an amazing book called Secret Daughter by Shilpi Somaya Gowda.

This book just really hit home to me on a few different levels. So many things to relate to. Hope I don't give too much away :)

Its a story of a woman giving up her baby in rural India. For me, this part of the story allows me to relate to our birth mother. We don't have a referral yet - so we don't know what our story will be. But when i read this story i see the amazing love this mother has for her child. I see the determination for this child to live and thrive. I see the love this mother has for her child all of her life. She wonders every day how her child is and what she is doing - every day. Giving up your child is not a a thing done lightly. I wonder if our birth mother will ever be at peace knowing how her child is being raised. I hope so.

Its a story of an adoptive mother who yearns for a child. I have lived her pain. It was hard to read. It was part of my story - and so it was very real to me. It put into words what i have felt at one time or another. Its not totally my story- as my relationship with my husband has only been strengthened through this whole thing - a blessing for sure. But, to see in words what i have felt - a validation in a way - was very powerful to me.

Its a story of a child growing up in a an adoptive family and longing to know her past and who she is. And its painful and hard but its necessary to figure out. I want to be able to walk with our child along this difficult journey and be able to help them answer those tough questions in their lives.

It's also a trip to India. We work in India and i feel a connection there. What an eye opener into the country of India.

So, there you have it. A good read. Hope you might enjoy it too.

4 comments:

Angela Sandau said...

My doctor recommended this book to me and I haven't had a chance to read it yet. I'm looking forward to putting a little time aside soon when Addis is napping or down for the night for it. Glad to hear you enjoyed it. Hoping we can get together soon.

Karen said...

Loved this book! It does make you think, doesn't it?

Krista said...

Wasn't it a great book? I related on so many levels too. Moving on to Little Princes by Conor Grennan (after I am finished with Book of Negroes)

The Mannings said...

Loved The Book of Negroes - couldn't put it down! Have heard of LIttle Princes - its on my list!!